It’s official, we are indeed married. Husband and wife, till’ death do us part, and the like. No ridiculous ceremony, very little planning, and best of all, no stress. Not yet at least. We decided to get a marriage license from the court, and have a family friend make it official for us on Christmas Eve by notarizing the license. Only our families were involved in this mini-matrimony, since we didn’t want it to become a big deal, which people usually tend to make things that need not be. The “Big Deal” ceremony will probably come in a year.. or two, which will involve the entire family, friends, stress, and planning.

So why didn’t we just wait until we could have the big deal ceremony? There are a number of answers for that question, all of which do not include “Love” in them. (*gasp*) Relax, i’ll explain why a little later. So why then? Avin, of course. We wanted him to be born sharing the last name of his parents, a unified whole, a.k.a. family. And also because our finances, bills, insurance, and the like all work together easier when we combine them together, as we have been for a few years now. The only difference now is that it’s “officially” combined. So why then was love not included? Well, I suppose marriage to me is ultimately, nothing but a contract. I mean, look up the defintion, that’s what it says; “The marriage vow or contract.” Love is something entirely different, it’s emotion, something that can not be put in to words very easily. And definitely not something that can be put down on a piece of paper. You can’t provide a defintion for it because it will just resist. And you don’t need a marriage license to prove that. Not that you have to prove anything to anyone, because true love exists with the only two people that matter, you and the person you love. It might even be safe to say marriage is only a way for everyone else to know you are in love. Which is silly to me, considering I believe that a relationship involves one other person and no one else. Am I trying to say that I would rather not be married? Of course not. Marriage was inevitable for Adrienne and I, just not as soon as we had initially thought. And being married just makes everything easier for us and everyone else involved. It’s a convenience which will make everything easier on us now and in the future. And like the baby, we accept with open arms.

I suppose all I’m saying is that a ritual won’t change the way I feel about our relationship. I love her with all the energy and emotion my underweight self can muster. The same way i’ve always loved her. So there you have it. We are the same unified whole as we were before, except now we share the same last name.

Marriage isn’t something you are; it’s something you do.

Back to this moment: I am indeed updating from the couch. Because I’m sick. I’ve had a 24 hour fever bug, and still feeling the congestion. The last thing I want is for her to get sick, so I’m recuperating on the couch, which just gives me reason to stay up late, watch tv, collect my thoughts, and update this website.