It’s amazing to think how my wife has been able to handle carrying our child for 9 months now. It’s even more amazing to think that he will finally be here with us any day now. Thinking about all this has made the last couple weeks move the slowest since we first found out she was pregnant.

I really don’t have much to say and my mind is all over the place gearing up for his arrival, and I hope that the next time I update this blog will be the announcement of his birth.

With that said, hurry up Avin!

To further my quest to be consciously aware, I decided to look into what kind of products I could purchase that not only serve as toys for Avin, but also as a lesson he can learn later on in life about living consciously. I don’t want him to grow up and take what he has for granted, and I also want him to understand that there are many people in this world who have much less than he does. I want him to know that there may not be much we can do to change what happens in this world, but that shouldn’t be a reason for us to do nothing at all. Sometimes the little things, like showing support and being aware, can make a big difference in the long run, and that’s why I chose to buy this product.

If you read my previous post about Going Green With Your Baby you may remember this awesome little leopard I mentioned. I initially decided to purchase this product because it was made from sustainable materials and I’m always a sucker for going green. It wasn’t until I actually received him in the mail when I realized there was more to it than that. The story behind this little guy made me appreciate him way more than I would if he was purchased at a department store, regardless of price.

He came from an organization called Kenana Knitter Critters, whose primary object is to help rural women find some much needed form of income utilising their spinning and knitting skills, in Kenya. Here is some info from their website which can explain much better than I can.

Njoro is mainly a farming area - agricultural work for the men is easier to come by than for the women-folk, yet agricultural wages are insufficient to support large and extended families. This group generates two forms of income, buying the wool, then creating more work by turning the wool into a marketable product. The money goes direct into the hands of the women who are thus able to improve the quality of their lives.

Kenana Knitters group enables its workers to directly benefit from their efforts. Knitting is ideal. it requires minimal equipment, can be done in snatches when time permits. When the rains come and the family crops and vegetables need tending not much knitting gets done, but in times of drought and crop failure, when the family garden is bare of supplementary vegetables, money can now be earned to purchase the necessities of life.

You can read more about this organization at their website here.

The person who created this particular product even signed her name on the tag, how cool is that! It’s one of a kind.

I purchased the product for $24.00 from Branch, an online store that sells a lot of cool sustainable products. Some may say that’s a hefty price to pay when you could easily get something similar for half the price from Wal-Mart or Target. This is true. However, knowing that I can make even the smallest difference by helping someone who really needs it and get an awesome toy for my son means way more than the price I paid. Wal-Mart doesn’t need my money, nor does Target, but Josphine does. And that is why I pay $24 for a stuffed sustainable standing leopard for my son.

This is coming from a dad’s perspective, so I can’t really speak for anyone who’s pregnant, obviously.  9 months of pregnancy is a hell of a lot harder for the moms than anyone else, but since I consider this a team effort between mom and dad, we try our best to be on the same page about certain things. Don’t get me wrong, we love hearing advice from anyone with experience raising children. I’m always up for hearing someone’s perspective, and learning from it. But sometimes the majority of advice that is given to us becomes repetitive, and is only said because it feels like the right thing to say at the time, because we’ve all heard it many times before. Not only does it come from family and friends, but strangers as well. It’s not that I would rather everyone not say anything at all, far from it. What I wish to happen is that people remember it’s not always what you say, but how you say it. In other words, teach not tell!

1. “It’s not going to be easy!” - The problem with this response is, not only that it’s obvious, but that it’s usually used with a negative connotation. Using a negative connotation with any response is not an effective way to show support for a situation. This response implies that everything having to do with a baby is complicated, challenging, and disheartening, and will probably cause you more suffering than you’ve ever felt in your entire life. At least, this is what I felt from the wave of dread that passed over me the first time someone said this to me. Say for example, a friend of yours is about to take a final exam for a really tough class he’s taking. He comes to you asking for insight and reassurance that he will do okay, but all you can come up with is, “It’s not going to be easy!” The situation is different, but the context is the same. Hearing this response when looking for support and reassurance about a situation will only cause someone to worry more. People who say “It’s not going to be easy” when referring to having a baby usually have good intentions, especially when it comes from family and friends, but the problem is that they say these things out of impulse because it’s something we’ve all heard many times before.

2.  “Your life is going to change.” -  Also obvious. In fact, I’m counting on it! This response sort of goes hand in hand with the one above. It will most likely come from your parents, and also brings with it a negative connotation. I say this because if the person speaking was attempting to use this response with a positive outlook, they would have probably added a positive word within. It would probably sound more like, “Your life is going to be amazing.” Or, “This baby is going to bring joy into your lives.” For example, someone you know is trying to earn their degree after many years of being in school. It’s challenging and causes a lot of frustration, but they still go through with it to accomplish their goal. Would you tell that person, “Your life is going to change.” because of it? Not likely, because using a postive outlook response would be more appropriate. The same would apply for pregnancy and raising a child. It takes a long time, is extremely challenging and frustrating, but if you reach that goal you were aiming for, it becomes a wonderful thing. Not to say that you couldn’t use this response with a positive outlook, because you can. But for the most part it is said out of impulse because the person saying it usually assumes that the person they are speaking to is taking the situation lightly, which is untrue in most cases. I say this because I’ve never met anyone who actually believes having a baby is going to be a walk in the park, but who knows.

3. “Are you excited?” - I don’t necessarily hate this one but it does become a little annoying at times. I usually assume that it’s a rhetorical question, considering the obvious answer one would usually give, but somehow people still ask me as if they really don’t know the answer. And I get asked this question a lot. A stranger recently asked me this, to which I replied, “I’m past the excitement part, I’m ready for him to grow up and move out already.” Her blank stare told me she failed to see the humor in my response. I don’t mind when people ask me whether or not I’m excited, it shows they are attempting to be involved in that excitement, which is a good thing. The problem is that it feels like most people ask this as if they are first person to do so, when in fact the number may very well be in the triple digits. It’s almost as if my mind has been building up an immunity to this question and every time I hear it, the excitement level drops a little less.

4. Sleep now because you won’t be getting any!” - This usually precedes something like, “You’ll be waking up every 2 hours! At 3 or 4 in the morning!” It’s told more so as a warning to new parents, instead of a general tidbit of knowledge. I wish that I would just speak up and say, “So?” So what if it’s 3 or 4 in the morning, because the second I look at my son I’ll realize this little thing is the best thing in the world and I’ll be nothing but happy to see his tiny face no matter what time it is. Besides, I don’t sleep as it is now, but that’s besides the point. It feels like people only say this so when you do have to wake up early in the morning because of the baby, you’re going to feel some sort of regret about having a child in the first place, which is probably not their intention to do so. But why else would someone say that for? Have you ever heard anyone say, “You’ll be up all night!” with an excited tone? I haven’t either. The baby could keep me up for a week straight and I still wouldn’t feel regret for having him, because being there for your child, no matter what time, is what being a parent is all about. Isn’t it?

5. “Just you wait!” - This one pretty much applies to everything I’ve said above and more. It can be used in any situation, and most people love to use it.  It’s a good ender to most arguments because it ensures the person saying it that they will be able to follow up with an “I told you so” if that time ever comes. I don’t personally hear this one often, because I’m not one to get into arguments regarding parenting, but the few times I did hear it I would just reply, “What else am I going to do but wait?”. I can understand the reason why people like to say this. Most young parents can have pretty strong opinions about raising a child, but the truth is that, we really won’t know until that moment happens. And you can’t argue with someone who is stuck in their ways, which is why “just you wait” is such an easy way to end a conversation. In actuality, no one wants to hear, “I told you so”, which is why teaching, not telling, someone about what they know nothing about is so important. It’s also important to remember that being stuck in their ways stands true for both parties involved. Keeping these aspects in mind, in most cases, ensures that the “just you wait’s” and the “I told you so’s” aren’t necessary.

I’m sure most of that just sounded like rambling from a young first time father. Which is probably true. But, the one main point I was trying to get across was that the most important thing anyone could give to first time parents is support. That’s really all anyone needs. Stand behind us through this frustrating time and give us the independence and responsibility we need to learn how to be great parents. And by instinct, we will become great parents. Not because of any impulse advice or warning signs, but because of the support that is shown to us by our family and friends.

Our friend Karen was awesome enough to take these photos you see before you at our recent baby shower, thanks Karen! A big thanks also goes out to Maya and Beth who organized the shindig for us. And of course, thanks to all our friends who showed up bearing gifts in preparation for Avin. Everyone’s support has given us the confidence we need during this crazy 9 months of anticipation. It’s all more than we could ask for. Enjoy the photos! For the complete set, check the gallery, or my flickr account and leave some comments!

Check out the entire gallery here!

It won’t be long until Avin is consuming our lives and being the greatest thing to ever happen to us without even trying. It’s making me more impatient than ever. 60 days might as well be 60 years. Nonetheless, I’m sure he’ll be here before we know it, and I won’t even remember how I’m feeling at this moment.

I wanted to update on what’s being going on lately because it’s been awhile since I actually wrote something. I’m sure after Avin is born I’ll have a lot more to talk about, because as of now, It’s nothing but anticipation.

Anyway, we went to  our last ultrasound recently, and found out the “echogenic bowel”  the doctor was so concerned about turned out to be nothing.  It went away on it’s own.  I’d like to go back in time and tell that doctor to shove his foot in his mouth.

We aren’t out of the blue yet, however. Her glucose test results came back a little high, and she now has to go back and do another 3-4 hour glucose test with double the amount of the orange stuff (yummy). If 2 of the 4 results come back high, then we’ll have to be referred to a nutritionist to make sure she’s watching her blood levels and eating the right foods.  I’d like to note that it’s not easy telling a pregnant woman what to eat and what not to eat, so I’ll leave that to the nutritionist.

I haven’t scanned in the new 4d pictures of Avin yet, but I will soon because baby pictures are always a good thing!

Until then, more anticipation.

Today the UPS guy graced us with his presence holding a package containing graphics we ordered from Blik! The graphics were exactly what we were was looking for and a more unique than going with the traditional framed wall decor, or cutesy wallpaper. Of course, cutesy wallpaper isn’t a bad thing, we were just looking for something a little different.  The cost for these graphics were around $60, and well worth the price. They covered a lot of wall space and gave the entire room a calm and moving feel of nature, and I’ve always loved the idea of bringing nature into your home. However, bringing in actual branches would be pretty complicated, so we did the next best thing, vinyl tree branches! Before I found out about Blik I had envisioned myself painting the branches on myself, and thankfully I didn’t have to spend any time painting on the walls with these. I did this alone so the whole ordeal took me a little more than an hour to finish, and the only hard part was keeping the bigger pieces from folding and sticking to each other when you are placing it on the wall. A second pair of hands would have made it easier to apply, but it still was still pretty easy without. I plan on getting some more graphics from Blik for my office, and I definitely recommend it to anyone looking to spice up their wall with something unique.

Enjoy the pics, and check out the gallery for more!

Almost complete, is actually more like it. We still have a shelf to put on the wall, and a rocker chair which is coming from Adrienne’s mother. After those items are completed, then I believe the stage 1 (furtniture) of our nesting phase will be over. Phase 2 involves decorative aspects of the nursery, and phase 3 would be finalizing with smaller details, and making sure everything is 100% ready for a baby.

This nursery set comes from Ikea. We pretty much loved this set since the first time we saw it. We decided to finally go with it when we realized every other nursery set we liked was almost twice the price and half the pieces of the one we bought. The entire set cost us around $750, and only took us a few hours to put together and set up. We also had the help of Adrienne’s parents to help make the process go even quicker. They also helped us bring home the furniture since none of this stuff would have fit in either of our cars.

The entire set includes a crib, dresser/changing table combo, an armoire, and a storage shelf. Not a bad deal at all! The crib also converts into a toddler bed, and the changing table detaches from the top of the dresser which can be used as he gets older as well.

The crib bedding, believe it or not, came from Wal-mart! I had a certain feel for the nursery I wanted, which included a natural/modernish looking bedding, with light greens, browns, and natural looking colors. I had found exactly what I wanted, the problem was that the bedding I found would cost a stupid ridiculous amount of money, and definitely not worth it. I never found another set I liked and decided to leave the choice up to Adrienne. And she delivered! (suprisingly… just kidding!) At first I wasn’t to sure about the brighter constrast, but I think it works just fine, and there’s nothing wrong with a little color. Adrienne’s mother was also nice enough to get the bedding for us as a gift!  We love gifts!

Hayden seems to love the new nursery set as well. Our cats believe all this incredible stuff is all for them. Oh, they are in for a huge surprise!

 That’s all for stage 1 of the nesting phase. Stay tuned for phase 2 when we add some decorative aspects, and check the gallery for more pictures!

Stacy recently commented asking about the blood tests Adrienne has to have done to rule out any infection(s) she may have, based on the “bright” intestines they saw on a recent ultrasound. I’ve been doing some research about the tests, and I thought I would share this information and my answer to Stacy and anyone else who may be interested.

Stacy wrote:

Hi,

I was just reading your post and I was told today that the small intestines “lit-up” on my 20-week ultrasound. Everything else looked normal (no other indicators of a problem) - but I am sooo scared. I feel like I can’t breathe. I actually already had an amnio and everything came back normal. I’m scared that their could be an element of human error with the amnio. Also, did you know you can get a blood test for cystic fibrosis (just to rule it out). I found out I already had that test and I’m not a carrier. I’m curious what 3 blood tests your wife had? I know you can get a test for a virus, but is it actually 3 tests? Please let me know. Thank you and I’m so happy your baby is fine!!

Adrienne and I both know exactly how you feel. It’s horrifying to think something may be wrong with your baby. What makes it worse is that you feel like it’s all your fault and you can’t do anything to fix the problem. It’s probably one of the worst things I’ve felt in my entire life, and I’m pretty sure Adrienne can attest to that as well. The only thing you can do is hope for the best, and trust your intuition when deciding to undergo medical prodcedures and tests that may rule out possibilities of a problem. We decided not to go with an amnio because the risk of losing our child just for a “yes” or “no” answer doesn’t seem worth the risk. We asked ourselves if knowing the answer to that test would change the way we feel about our child, and we both knew instantly that we would love him the same, no matter the circumstances. The best thing to do I believe, is to just trust yourself. You will know what’s best for your baby, so just trust in yourself and whatever decisions you may make.

Alright, enough rambling. On to the information you asked for. To rule out the possibilities of infection, the doctor recommended 3 more blood tests. Here is some information I found about each of the those tests.

CMV IgM and IgG

(From http://www.labtestsonline.org/understanding/analytes/cmv/test.html)

There are several methods of detecting a cytomegalovirus (CMV) infection:

Two types of CMV antibodies may be found in the blood: IgM and IgG. IgM antibodies are the first to be produced by the body in response to a CMV infection.

CMV antibody testing may be performed to determine immunity to CMV in pregnant women, in patients prior to organ or bone marrow transplantation, and in a person diagnosed with HIV/AIDS.

(From http://www.emedicine.com/PED/topic544.htm)

Of all the human herpesviruses described to date, cytomegalovirus (CMV) is arguably the one whose infection causes the most morbidity and mortality. Although primary infection with this agent generally does not produce symptoms in healthy adults, several high-risk groups, including immunocompromised organ transplant recipients and individuals infected with HIV, are at risk of developing life- and sight-threatening CMV disease. In addition, CMV has emerged in recent years as the most important cause of congenital infection in the developed world, commonly leading to mental retardation and developmental disability.

Varicella-Zoster Virus Antibodies, IgG & IgM (chicken pox)

(From http://dermatology.about.com/cs/pregnancy/a/chickenpreg.htm)

Chicken pox is usually a benign, self-limited, viral infection caused by the varicella virus. However, chicken pox acquired during pregnancy causes an increase risk of complications to the mother and the infant. The time of infection, during early pregnancy or near delivery, determines the risk to mother and child.

Pregnant women who have a history of a previous chicken pox infection or who have been immunized have antibodies to the virus. These antibodies are transferred to the infant through the placenta throughout the pregnancy. Therefore, pregnant women who are immune and are exposed to someone with chicken pox do not need to worry about complications for themselves or their infant.

Toxoplasma gondii

(From http://gateway.nlm.nih.gov/MeetingAbstracts/102235562.html)

Toxoplasma gondii is an important pathogen in immunocompromised patients and a cause of birth defects in congenitally infected infants. From 5% to 25% of the adult population in the USA is seropositive for Toxoplasma antibodies. Acceptable sensitivity and specificity have been reported for the measurement of IgG antibodies, but the detection of IgM antibodies is more problematic because of clinical concerns.

I had thought that she was already tested for these, I thought they sounded familiar when the Dr. wrote out the order, but nonetheless, it’s best to rule out any possibilities we can. So Stacy, I hope this information helps you out in some way.

… is ridiculously hard. Seriously. It’s just a car seat I know, but still, it’s hard. If I’m buying something for myself, or my wife, I usually have no trouble trusting my intuition and just picking something out. Unfortunately, when it comes to my son I can’t seem to make up my mind until I’ve completely weighed and analyzed every variable known to man. When it comes to car seats, there is just way too much information to look at, and even more to think about. In the end I don’t want to end up settling for one simply because it’s there, and the price is right. So this doesn’t happen, I’ve narrowed down my choices based on the car seat information I’ve found online.

I Googled “child car seat buying guide” and sure enough, Google gave me a wonderful link to AAP Car Safety Seats: A Guide For Families 2008. There was a lot of valuable information about the types of car seats available and also some tips to remember for each of them. It was a good referesher for the very little car seat knowledge I already obtained.

We had initially decided that we were going to get a convertible type seat, since it saves money in the long run by not having to buy another seat as your child grows. I like that idea. However, I don’t like how these types of seats do not come with carrying handles or a separate base. I just think it would be more convenient not having to take the baby out of the seat and into a stroller or sling/carrier for shorter stops, when I can just detach the seat and take it with me.

On the AAP website was also a link to the Office of Defects Investigation, which lists previous recalls for various child car seats. What I found was that almost every manufacturer we were considering had a recall or two with past seat models. One manufacturer had a recall for every model in every year since 2001. From screws which loosen and become choking hazards, to children getting their fingers stuck in the different parts of the seats, it’s all a little unnerving.

The last site I looked over was the Child Passenger Safety: Ease-of-Use Ratings on the NHTSA website. This website rates various manufacturers and models by 1-5 stars in categories such as: securing the child, installation features, and overall ease of use. All great information to look at before making a decision.

Based on all the information gathered above, I narrowed it down to these choices of seats. These companies seem to have the least recalls in the last 5 years and have the best ease of use ratings overall.

Evenflo Triumph Advance LX Convertible Car Seat - Barley Twist - $129.99
What I liked about this one was the adjustable shoulder height as well as the ability to tighten and loosen the harness with 2 lockable cranks on each side of the chair.

I don’t like the price.

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Graco SnugRide Infant Car Seat - Hemmingway - $79.99

I liked how ridiculously comfortable this seat felt, and the ergonomic handle was pretty nice and makes for some easy carrying. The price isn’t too bad considering some of the others.

However, I don’t like Hemmingway.

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Graco Comfort Sport Car Seat - Metropolitan - $119.99

This seat has a ton of features: Lift-Up Lever Adjustment, Recline Level Indicator, Up-Front Adjustment, and some cupholders on both sides! It also matches the interior of my car quite nicely.

The price is still pretty high, and this seat didn’t look like it would be an easy transport from car to car.

There are a few others like Britax we were considering, but of course we won’t make a decision until we actually walk in and buy one.

I would love to hear some recommendations on what car seats other parents used, or are currently using. What are the pros and cons? Ease of use? Someone help us out here!

Kris from How To Be A Dad! decided to tag me for an interview meme so here goes! Thanks Kris!

How long have you been blogging?

I wouldn’t say I’ve been blogging for years, but I have been writing online for quite some time. From keeping a livejournal back in the day, to the blogs/sites I have now, I enjoy writing to help keep my thoughts in check and allow other people to enter portions of my mind that I don’t usually allow in everyday life. This blog started in December, a little while after Adrienne and I found out she was pregnant.

What inspired you to start your blog, and who are your mentors?

Our child was the sole inspiration to starting this blog. And as the same as Kris, it allows me to avoid having to tell the same information to the many people in our lives who want to know what’s going on with the baby, and sometimes us.

Some of my daily reads include: Kris, Andy, D is for Dad, Zen Habits, and far to many others to list.

Are you trying to make money online, or are you doing it just for fun?

Nah. My intentions for this blog are far more important than making money from it. For those reasons, I vow never to have ads or sponsors cluttering up any part of my site. If I ever go against this vow, I’d like someone to send me an electronic punch to the face. I look at more traffic and readers being the pay off, and worth more than the little money I make from some silly ads.

Short answer: I do it for fun!

What 3 things do you love about being online?

1. Easier to communicate directly and indirectly with people.
2. Getting feedback! Hearing from other people and communicating. The internet is one giant social network, after all.
3. Being able to share my excitement, and giving everyone the ability to choose whether they want to  share that excitement or not.

What 3 things do you struggle with online?

1. Not being able to express completely what I’m trying to say into words/text.
2. Reading other blogs/entries in an objective and non judgemental way.
3. Accepting that other people always judge and can’t look or read things in an objective way.

There you have it!  I don’t really have anyone specific I’d like to tag, so this is a call to anyone reading to  do their own exclusive interview meme and spread it around like a viral marketing ad. (Leave a link in the comments if you do your own, so I can check it out!)